Recently, a rather large hurricane rammed into the side of Texas. In other places, they are dealing with a raging wildfire. Some places have severe drought. Let’s zoom in a little closer for a second. Some people are dealing with missing loved ones, lost jobs, illnesses, death, and much more that we hadn’t really planned on happening. In other words, we are all facing our own types of aftermaths. We all know that life is famous for curveballs. Or lemons, as some people call them. I like the old adage:
“When life gives you lemons, make lemonade”
because it’s actually kind of hard to screw up such a simple recipe. The only way you could is if you forgot the sugar. Now, this sugar in life can be lots of things. I could be a good attitude or it could be drive. It could be effort or it could be self-care. It doesn’t really matter what it is, but in your recipe for life, make sure you don’t forget it. Here are some suggestions that you can do for yourself in the aftermath of life so you don’t forget your sugar.
5 Things You Need to do for Yourself
1. Stay Positive
I know in aftermaths that life seems bleak and hopeless. Everything has changed, you may not be sure how to go on, and all you want is for life to go back to the way it was, for better or worse. As easy as it is to be pessimistic or hop on the Debbie Downer train, you need to know this:
You owe it to yourself to stay positive.
Even when the floodwaters seemed to have ruined everything, even when a car crash or illness has changed your family dynamic, stay positive. Here’s why.
No matter what you do or wish or beg, life goes on. The sun will keep rising and setting. People will keep going about their daily life. It’s unsettling and it’s upsetting, but it happens. If you just stay in a negative state of mind, all you are doing is torturing yourself. When the mind stays negative, it’s actually impossible for it to go forward with tasks. The more negative you stay, the less you are able to cope with the aftermath and move forward.
When you begin to look at the aftermath positively, then you will begin to actually be able to overcome it. You can start to see ways in which good things can happen again. You can see that the aftermath really hasn’t taken everything away. Life may be different, but there’s always a silver lining or two. Look for them. Write them down. Having these as reminders will not only help you stay positive, but they will help you overcome the aftermath.
2. Keep Your Will Strong
Even when you are down on your knees, up to your hips in floodwater, or surrounded by the chaos of your aftermath, think on this:
You owe it to yourself to keep your will strong.
When you feel weak and pulled in several directions, stand, hold your ground, and let the world know exactly what you want and exactly how you plan to get it. If you are in the middle of grieving or lamenting what was and you want something, don’t let the world steamroll you. You make a stand and you make everything halt.
You are not a push over. You are not beaten. You are still a strong human being capable of having wants and needs and the ability to obtain them. Don’t let the world tell you otherwise.
3. Apply Your Effort
Even if your aftermath seems so dark and murky you can’t get out, you should remember this:
You owe it to yourself to show your effort.
Once you decide to do something, do it. Don’t declare your intentions and then back out. It’s fine having a strong will, but you need to actually act on it. Mold your life into what you want it to be. Maybe this aftermath has given you an opportunity to right something in your life that you always wanted. Maybe it’s a new kitchen. Maybe it’s helping your community. Maybe it’s an eye opener and you want to explore the world.
Make up your mind, show your will, and actually go get it. The world is your oyster. Make it yours.
4. Remember Yourself
Even though I’ve spoken of going gung-ho and charging into life full steam, never forget this:
You owe it to yourself to pamper yourself.
You’ve survived what many consider a tragedy. Maybe it’s even worse than a tragedy and it’s a travesty. Whatever it is, it’s big, and sometimes trying to hammer away nonstop in what I consider the “survival mode” isn’t very good for your health.
Go ahead and have that second slice of dessert. Go ahead and enjoy that bubble bath. Spend some money for someone else to massage your feet. Maybe go all in for a full body massage. Take some time for you, and your body and spirit will thank you.
Everyone needs a little refresher now and then. Be sure you don’t forget yourself as you tackle your aftermath.
5. Never Forget
You’ve survived something that many people balk at. Some declare they couldn’t have done it, yet you did. You got smashed into the ground by life and still managed to sprout up amidst all of the debris.
You owe it to yourself to remember.
Remembering the times of toil and stress and pain can serve as an example that life can always be a little sweeter. They serve as a reminder that we can and will survive. They serve as a reminder, perhaps, of the things that were lost that shouldn’t suffer to be forgotten. You carry the battle scars that show the world how strong of a person you are and how strong you can become.
Remember what caused them, keep your spirits high, make up your mind, follow through with your decisions, and treat yourself. Do these, and life will seem sweeter. Use these to hoard your sugar.
Life can throw some mighty big and mighty sour lemons, but we have the power to turn them into the sweetest of lemonades.